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23 May 2021 –  Grief & Our History of Losses -The Grief Recovery Handbook: The Action book by John W. James – check out the podcast at

22 May 2021 (Karen Hale)
I refuse to grieve for any time lost and appreciate the achievements in my life.  For an exceedingly long time, I was more concerned to please and meet the expectations of others. When I say along time, I am talking 50+ years.  Even when I went through my divorce, I thought less about myself and more about how I would be perceived.  Perception has been a key to the many errors I have made in my journey.  The day I woke up and realized all the things I had learned was now my inspiration to change. Change is not easy and often we fall back into the patterns that we have grown accustomed to even when we have chosen to take the fork in the road and travel a new path.  New does not mean smooth and seamless, in fact, it can be quite the opposite.
On the podcast, The Intentionality Gurus we are currently discussing grief, and strange as it may seem this has become a theme of many of our podcasts at  (Grief is not just about the loss of life, it can be for any form of loss.  There is no right or wrong way to express or display your grief, it is yours to own and only yours.  Yes, others may support us and guide us as we travel this slippery slope that one moment is heart-wrenching and the next makes your heart sing and smile with pleasant memories that fill your core.  It is ok to have a combination of emotions, in fact, it is natural for all of us to experience a loss with a smile.  However, if the smile you are wearing is a mask, hiding your true feelings, that may cause more harm than cure.
The cure for heartache is working through it and finding the sunshine that comes up in the East and sets in the West.  Your smile may not appear at dawn but at sundown, you may feel calm or at high noon you may find yourself giggling over something you cannot identify.  When those feels of happiness emerge capture them in your soul and keep them close.
I cannot remember a time when I did not feel sadness.  I looked at life from the outside looking in, even when I was intertwined with those I wanted to be more like.  I grew up dislike many things about me that I thought wasn’t like those I wanted to be more like.  It ranged from not liking my body (thin, chunky, or FAT!)  It was not always body image, I never felt I was as smart as others and often found myself over-compensating and in my head not measuring up.
It is never too late to change and it’s OK not to be perfect.  I do not expect everyone to like me or agree with me, but I will go out of my way to ensure others will not hate me and open dialogue will add strength and purification to my journey.  I am a giver and when I give on my watch it has much more meaning.
Join us on and enjoy positivity.

9 May 2021 Sunday is Mother’s Day and Candace Pollock and I will be recording one of her bi-weekly podcasts.  The subject this week is, “Lessons from the Grief Recovery Method: Myths About Grief”  This is the second time this week will be discussing the subject of grief.  On Tuesday, May 4, Elise Marie Collins welcomed Michelle Marlahan, a yoga teacher, writer, and Creative Grief Advocate.  

Grief is a subject that we tend to pack away and ignore and when we experience it we often fail to experience it with our eyes wide open.  On Sunday, May 9, 2021 at 4 pm EDT if you click on this link you can participate in The Intentionality Gurus –

24 April 2021
Today we began a new series on the Grief Recovery Method.  Take a moment and ask yourself what grief means and how it affects you.
Grief is a noun meaning deep sorrow, especially that caused by someone’s death.
Informally it means, trouble or annoyance.
On behalf of Candace Pollock, I want to encourage you to listen to these podcasts and to get involved in the dialogue.  When we prepare ourselves for the glitches in our life we are to do something or make the adjustments needed.

17 April 2021
It is important to find your voice.  Do not be silenced, however, when voicing your opinions, wants, and or needs you may want to consider thinking before you speak.  We all have choices to make in life and too often we use words and tones that incite and anger others.  The emotions and tones you use whether in conversation or writing, letters, emails, tweets, and texts, it is important that what you are expressing comes across correctly.

Learning to be an Intentionality Guru means you are willing to feel from within and share that message in a non-threatening matter.  Bi-weekly, Candace Pollock guides us through her podcasts which we share with you on her Facebook page as well as this website.  When we are intentional we can stop before we speak and do, we can look at the fork in the road and pause as we decide how our body language, as well as the chosen words, will be heard.

The response that is provoked by the message may not be your intent and the reaction you receive may be destructive.   What is your intention and how can you invoke an acceptable response?

10 April 2021 Are You Willing? We may say we want to change, but are we willing to make the changes we want?  We may not want to participate in an event, but will we make an excuse or go, dreading our choice? Are we the victim of fear of change?  If you answered yes to any one of these questions welcome to the club of life.  Many of us want to make changes in our lives whether it is to losing weight, exercise, eating healthier, socialize more, socialize less, change careers, or any number of things.  However it all comes down to one simple question – Are You Willing?

29 March 2021 Flexibility is the key to success. Although I have lived most of my life following the rules, some of the rules I enforced upon myself were not healthy and caused me bouts of anxiety as well as a sense of being too busy.  Wanting to please others I added more, and more to my calendar each day and despite not having enough hours in the day I found the snippets I need to complete each task and yet never feel the exhilaration of crossing the finish line.  Just I complete yesterday I got a foothold on today… On The Intentionality Gurus (3/29/21) Candace Pollock walked ‘us’ through the 12th commitment of enough.  When committing to enough and you are above the line or open to the concept, “I commit to experiencing that I have enough of everything… including time, money, love, energy, space, resources, etc.”  However, if you find yourself below the line, closed off, allowing the anxiety to overwhelm you, “I commit to a scarcity mentality choosing to see that there is “not enough” for me and others in the world and therefore I have to be conscious of making sure I get and preserve what is “mine.| Life is not perfect no matter how much we plan and set expectations, life can be messy and we can feel as if we have enough one moment followed by feeling as if time is passing us by… I will not profess that I live my life above the line, consciously being open, aware, and accepting my success but through personal coaching, I am finding my inner happiness and when I find myself in a spiral going down below the line I reach for a life jacket – all you have to do is reach out for guidance.

24 March 2021 Although Saturday, March 27th would be the scheduled date of The Intentionality Gurus, please note due to various reasons, we will be recording and posting on Monday, March 29th. Life is filled with changes, some large and some very minute. Our recording’s day and time were intentional for this next episode in the scheme of things changing. To be intentional means to choose to make an important decision. ” Being intentional means getting clear upfront about what you want to achieve…” Watch for our next podcast, and if you would like to join in the conversation logon using this link at 5 pm EST

14 March 2021 Candace Pollock_The Intentionality Gurus _ Source of Approval, Control, and Security 2_27_21 Over the last several months’ Candace Pollock, Life Coach/Podcaster, has been leading the conversation using “The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership.” “The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership is a relationship roadmap that covers the full spectrum of ways that we can live and relate from either fear/below the line or trust/above the line.”  These concepts were created by Diana Chapman,  Jim Dethmer, and Kaley Klemp based on The Hendricks Institute’s work.” Join us by listening to the previous podcasts, and if you would like to participate in future recordings, please contact us at  In the subject line, please type THEINTENTIONALITYGURUS

13 March 2021 Today’s podcast theme is “Win-lose vs. Win-for-All.”  However, we all want to win; how important is winning, and is there a methodology for a WIN-FOR-ALL Scenario?  Before you listen to today’s podcast, ask yourself the question – can we both agree?  According to Stephen Covey, “Win/Win is a belief in the third alternative. It’s not your way or my way; it’s a better way, a higher way.”  What if you chose to collaborate rather than compromise or only choose one solution that may not work for both sides of the equation. This process begins with dialogue and open-mindedness to work together to create a solution that does not assess a loser. Compromise = “an agreement or a settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions.” Collaboration = coordination of efforts to work with another person or group to achieve or do something. View Page

March 18, 2018 – just about 3 years ago to the date today (Friday, March 12, 2021), Candace Pollock joined with her podcast series, The Intentionality Gurus. Each bi-weekly recording has taught me (Karen Hale), producer and internet manager, that personal coaching is such a positive venue. This series has taught me how to feel my thoughts and determine if and when change is needed. Like you, change is not easy for me; even when things in our life (personal or business)are producing negative thoughts and feelings, we cling to them because even discomfort can be comfortable. I hope you will join the journey and reach out to Candace Pollock at – you two can participate in not of her podcasts or choose to schedule one-on-one personal/business coaching sessions.Using the scale above – check into your feelings – Coaching is not Therapy – it is a choice to make better choices.